Using an iPhone as a car connected iPod - SOLVED

To get to a point where I can download music onto it, the phone asks for my Home WiFi code. I know that it is not possible to access this code from the phone once entered and that anyone would have to sit in a car outside my house to "steal" my broadband but I would prefer just to connect to to the Mac and download songs without this step.
The phone advises that alternatively I can connect using iTunes but we don't have iTunes anymore and Finder does not trigger the phone into thinking that it has established contact with my Mac even though a cable is connected and it shows up in the Finder sidebar.
Does anyone have a solution otherwise I will continue with WiFi?
I hope that I can complete the task without entering my Apple ID as I don't want to have an "open" device with access to Apple.