iCal

When the Wags calendar was published last year there was some errors and as a result I missed one or two meetings. I have an up to date calendar but I must be doing something wrong because the refresh buttons are still dimmed out.
Can anyone point me in the right direction please or at least tell me where I am going wrong?
Thanks
John Marriott
p.s I have been on iChat with Mark and together we tried but in the end gave up!!